{"id":3050,"date":"2011-06-05T09:21:55","date_gmt":"2011-06-05T13:21:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.tengrrl.com\/blog\/?p=3050"},"modified":"2013-08-02T17:31:10","modified_gmt":"2013-08-02T21:31:10","slug":"more-important-things-to-talk-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tengrrl.com\/blog\/2011\/06\/05\/more-important-things-to-talk-about\/","title":{"rendered":"More Important Things to Talk About"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>As stories of the National Spelling Bee flood the news, I wanted to repost a personal spelling story that  <a href=\"http:\/\/ncteinbox.blogspot.com\/2008\/05\/more-important-things-to-talk-about.html\" title=\"More Important Things to Talk About\" target=\"_blank\">originally appeared in the NCTE Inbox blog<\/a>. It&rsquo;s a story I carry with me as I respond to the writing of others. <\/em><br \/>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><hr align=\"center\" width=\"33%\">&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When I was nearly 13, my parents gave me a pad of light blue paper   with delicate yellow and peach flowers in the upper left corner, their   stems stretching down the left margin. I delighted in the pad of   stationery and the matching box of envelopes they gave me as a reward   for watching for my younger sisters and brother while they did their   grocery shopping. <\/p>\n<p>I stared at the paper a few times everyday. Occasionally I ran my hand   across the smooth surface. It felt like a perfect silk, almost too   precious to even write upon. After about a week, I broke down and   decided it was time to write a letter. I found the best pen in the house   and carefully wrote a message to my grandparents, describing our recent   trips to the public library, the Dolley Madison biographies I had been   reading, and our trips to Wrightsville and Fort Fisher beaches. <\/p>\n<p>When I finished writing, I sealed the letter in the envelope and   carefully added my grandparents&rsquo; address. After adding a stamp, I   carried the letter outside,  placed it in the mailbox, and raised the   red flag that would tell the letter carrier to start my letter on its   journey from North Carolina to Pennsylvania. Anyone watching this series   of events would have thought I was participating in a formal religious   rite. I paid no attention to my youngest sister and brother as they wove   their tricycles around me. I had serious business to do. I was sending   my words forth on that beautiful paper.<\/p>\n<p>A week or so later, I found a small white envelope in the mailbox with   my name on it, the looping letters telling me immediately that my   grandmother had addressed this letter. I carried it inside the house and    sliced the envelope open with my mother&rsquo;s letter opener. Inside, I   found a letter written by my grandfather. He told me how tall the corn   was and about the latest Louis L&rsquo;Amour novel he&rsquo;d been reading. <\/p>\n<p>I sat up  taller at the kitchen table and crossed my ankles under my   chair, like the ladies I&rsquo;d seen on my mother&rsquo;s soap operas. My brother   and sister were across the room, playing with a Fisher-Price bus and a   circus train. Such babies compared to me. <em>I <\/em>had sent out a letter <em>and<\/em> received a message in reply. <em>Me<\/em>.   My perfect light blue stationery was powerful.  It transformed me from   clumsy pre-teen to young adult. I mused on how I would continue this   exchange, sending letters back and forth  just like Dolley Madison,   writing letters to family and friends, and saving my letters for future   historians to revisit so they could learn about my life. In short, I was   euphoric, absolutely smitten with the power of writing. <\/p>\n<p>I  turned over the page to read the paragraph  on the back: \n<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>You spelled <em>their<\/em> and <em>a lot<\/em> wrong. You need to spell right to do well in school.<br \/>\n    Love,<br \/>\n    Grandpa<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I couldn&rsquo;t look at anyone in the room. They&rsquo;d all see what a faker I had   been. I slid off the chair as silently as possible and went down the   hall to my room. I folded the letter and put it back in the envelope,   which I tossed on my desk amid piles of books and old notebooks. I never   read it again. I probably threw it away, but I have no memory of where   it went. I put the beautiful blue paper at the bottom of a dresser   drawer, where it stayed for months. <\/p>\n<p>My spelling had betrayed me. I wasn&rsquo;t really a letter writer. No   historian would care about my letters in the centuries to come. It would   be months before I wrote my grandparents another letter. A thank you   note for a Christmas present, it included only the basic information. I   neither expected nor received a reply. My mother said to write, and I   did. I assume she mailed it with similar letters written by my sisters   and brother. I didn&rsquo;t save the details. <\/p>\n<p>Whenever I begin to circle a spelling error on a student paper, I try to   remember this story.  Spelling matters, of course. But there are times  when what matters most   isn&rsquo;t that spelling conforms to standard written English. The story.   Sentence structure. Supporting details. The writer&rsquo;s engagement and   enthusiasm.  Sorry, Grandpa, but sometimes <em>thier<\/em> and <em>alot<\/em> just don&rsquo;t matter. There are more important things to talk about.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As stories of the National Spelling Bee flood the news, I wanted to repost a personal spelling story that originally appeared in the NCTE Inbox blog. 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